Therapy is ..


.. stumbling upon a new beach park when attending a barbeque party; inhaling the lovely smell of roast sweet potatoes and watching the sea through the gaps between the coconut trees, thinking of this beauty called life, feeling inspired to take that one extra step to make one dream a reality; letting the nostalgia of summer holidays by the not-so-clean riverside wash over you because while this cleanliness looks beautiful and pristine, the memories associated with a not-so-clean beach are priceless.


.. sipping on filter coffee, the ever-familiar frothy ice-creamy layer, making the “srrp” sound without a bother because that was how it tasted awesome; tearfully remembering that no matter what, this will always smell of ma and sometimes a bit of corriander when she forgot to wash her hands before serving the coffee in a hurry while packing our lunch boxes. Why doesn’t my coffee come an inch close?


…. weaving paper to make tea coasters because the act of weaving is meditation; the thoughts that cross your mind amaze you and the joy that engulfs you during the process of creation seems to be contagious. It makes you look forward to wash that pile of dishes, even.


…. K satisfying the midnight craving for a nice plum by walking all the way to the refridgerator which is by no means a small feat once you are settled nicely in bed; munching on one plum after the other, marvelling at how God can create something so resplendent and tasty and juicy that opens up warm memories of papa bringing home plum boxes for ChintuΒ and me to devour.


…. celebrating Valentine’s day by watching fighter planes making hearts, feeling dizzy with happiness and wishing that “fighter” planes always did that.


…. making poochkas at home and teasing ChintuΒ endlessly; fighting with K for that last one and realizing that there is one more poochka on the countertop, left behind by mistake and then dashing towards it becauseΒ there is nothing so tasty as the last one; K winning the race but letting me have half of it because, mushily though, that’s how we roll.


…. play-doh. Everytime I walk into Popular or Toys-R-Us, I walk out with a box of play-doh. The colours, the texture, the fact that it is so pliable and can make anything from anywhere draws me to them each time. Why, even the little jars are so pretty! What can make it better? A pair of little hands that share your enchantment.


— lying on the grass, savouring the tactile sensation that puts the best couch to shame; watching the big sea and the small waves and ripples that make it, realizing all over again how life is in its small moments; watching a couple getting cozy and feeling shy; singing along in gay abandon with K, falling in love with how music binds us together at so many levels; cherishing the Sunday evening and looking forward to a nice Monday.


….. knowing and feeling secure in the knowledge that this list is endless.



  1. pixie · March 26, 2014

    And yes, completely agree about filter coffee!! and lying on the grass with the sun shining above you is pure bliss!
    A book maybe for company? πŸ˜€

    • kismitoffeebar · March 26, 2014

      Oh yes, I did have the Kindle with me actually. I think a book would only make it better if nothing! πŸ™‚

  2. Jas · March 26, 2014

    And this list is making me crave for everything that’s mentioned here right from gol gappe to beach to plums and oh so nice coffee.

    • kismitoffeebar · March 26, 2014

      πŸ™‚ Jas, the three you have mentioned are within your reach – gol gappas are! πŸ™‚

  3. ashreyamom · March 26, 2014

    wow.. the list is just not therapy, its all the happiness in life.. even if one thing happens in a month i would be so happy.. πŸ™‚

  4. onehonestwriter · March 26, 2014

    Its indeed happiness, its therapeutic to even read this. Wow such a happy post. Beaches, Coffee, Memories, pani puri, heart in the sky….happy moments. And please do share a tutorial of weaving paper like that, it looks beautiful. I love your sandals too, I can sense how comfy they might be. Also I am all for clay, I love the colourful one available in the kids store, even I bought some just for fun.

    How have you been Kismi?

    • kismitoffeebar · March 26, 2014


      Am doing good, busy. But busy good. How have you been?
      Your lines are so beautiful – thanks πŸ™‚ Pinterest is full of tutorials, OHW. Let me know if you find something, else am happy to share – though I wonder if am tutorial-level πŸ˜›

      Hi-5 for clay! πŸ™‚

  5. The Girl Next Door · March 26, 2014

    — All of that is therapy indeed! God bless you! πŸ™‚ And you are so right, the knowledge that this list is endless is priceless indeed.
    — Those poochkas look amazing!
    — You have places where you can see the sea through coconut trees? Gah! I am so jealous!
    — You tempt me to get some Play-Doh now! I need that therapy now. πŸ™‚
    — A little pair of hands to make little creations out of the Play-Doh with you?! Did I miss something? What, when, how? :O :O :O
    — That paragraph about the hint of the smell of coriander in your ma’s filter coffee is so, so, so beautiful. Can totally relate!

    • kismitoffeebar · March 26, 2014

      Ha ha TGND! Your comments always make me so happy πŸ™‚
      First things first – the pair of little hands is a child in therapy. He wanted a photo of his hands with “yellow play-doh” and green play-doh and blu play-doh but I just shared one here πŸ™‚ Get play-doh immediately – it is awesome!
      Am so glad you could relate to ma’s filter coffee. Such priceless memories ..

  6. Deepika · March 26, 2014

    Therapy is..
    Reading this post and enjoying the pics πŸ™‚
    Am feeling good πŸ™‚

    • kismitoffeebar · March 26, 2014

      Hi Deepika!
      Warm welcome πŸ™‚ Ha ha, glad to hear that!

  7. greenboochi · March 26, 2014

    Oh wow. the last line is so very therapeutic! πŸ™‚

    Loved this post Kismi πŸ™‚ I have missed your posts and your beautiful writing so much.. pls do write more?! I know I am greedy, but when you write such awesome posts I am allowed to be little greedy to read them more I guess πŸ™‚

    Could totally relate to the smell of coriander from Amma’s filter coffee – such a beautiful feeling. Miss Amma so much now.

    I want to get play dough right now. I have never ever touched it! And those paper coasters are awesome – love the color combination πŸ™‚ Will make them when I am sure I wont spoil them too, with my *ever-ready-to-drop-some-water-from-the-jug* hands πŸ™‚

    That pic of yours lying on the grass is so so relaxing πŸ™‚ Wish you get many of such opportunities πŸ™‚

    • kismitoffeebar · March 26, 2014

      GB! You make me feel awesome by writing such sweet things. I am so glad to be part of this world, truly. Thanks you and I mean it from the bottom of my heart.
      I am so happy that a few of you can relate to that corriander smell – it is such a beautiful feeling indeed! Hope you get to see your Amma soon πŸ™‚ Going this weekend?
      Ha ha , please get some play-doh. They are awesome! And have fun weaving paper as well.
      Thanks Gb. Thanks a lot! πŸ™‚

  8. rubberpal · March 26, 2014

    Awesome write…. I’m raving for such nostalgic moments in my life πŸ˜₯ We are all going behind things that the world consider on TOP and miss the wonders which can fulfil our heart to the core….
    Love reading it again n again πŸ™‚

    • rubberpal · March 26, 2014

      Awesome write…. I’m craving for such nostalgic moments in my life πŸ˜₯ We are all going behind things that the world consider on TOP and miss the wonders which can fulfil our heart to the core….
      Love reading your post again n again

      • kismitoffeebar · March 27, 2014

        Thanks a lot RP! Finding happiness in these wonders is the way to deal with adulthood and all the “tags” is what I believe. And with such a temporary time in the world, why not spend it being happy, right?

  9. freakyveggie · March 26, 2014

    Beautiful post, loved all the pictures and the writing, these little things are all what life is all about πŸ™‚

  10. Destination Infinity · March 27, 2014

    Now I know how fighter plane pilots in Singapore are kept busy πŸ˜›

    Destination Infinity

    • kismitoffeebar · March 27, 2014

      This was an airshow in Singapore. The fighter planes were from different parts of the world πŸ™‚

  11. Ramya · March 27, 2014

    Kismi, God Bless you abundantly dear ! for just being what you are..Your writing makes one just turn away from anyting that is non- optimistic πŸ™‚ I did have my therapy on reading your post which inturn brings out many memories associated with the “corriander scented amma’s hands”, or the paani poori sharing πŸ™‚ Thanks so much! Please do write more and more often, I’m asking this out of selfishness without caring about how demanding your time/schedule is..

    • kismitoffeebar · March 28, 2014

      Hey Ramya! Thanks a lot for your beautiful wishes. I am very touched. I will make an effort to write down my thoughts more often πŸ™‚ I am so glad that you share those memories too! Stay blessed!

  12. aarthy1823 · March 28, 2014

    I could completely connect with all that you have written. I felt the pleasure of enjoying amidst nature and savouring filter coffee even while I read your writing.
    And I loved the ending .. Feeling happy that list is endless πŸ™‚
    BTW nice name for your blog. It is so Indian and seems to hint at times by gone. I still remember the ads and the elachi flavored brown bar that I loved eating as a child πŸ™‚
    Happy to have stumbled upon your blog. Keep writing!

    • kismitoffeebar · March 31, 2014

      Hi Aarthy!

      A very warm welcome here πŸ™‚ Am so glad that you could relate !
      I loved Kismi bars as a child and do so even now! Checking out your space now πŸ™‚

  13. dreamzandclouds · March 31, 2014

    that is most certainly a WOW post……the last line was the cherry on the cake! and yes, nothingcan beat the soothing effect of lying on the grass πŸ™‚

  14. Little Fingers · April 1, 2014

    And reading this post make me therapeutic πŸ™‚ happiness overloaded . Stay blessed. !!

  15. Visha · April 2, 2014

    you do know all the clicks can be classified under the wowza category right πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜‰
    the paper coasters look so beautiful, must learn them while I wait for Moo to arrive πŸ˜€
    I love your footwear too πŸ™‚

    • kismitoffeebar · April 3, 2014

      Oye hoye! Look WHO is here! πŸ™‚
      Oh, ya ya paper coasters are easy peasy – and fun to make πŸ™‚
      Thanks Visha!

  16. sayingitall · April 5, 2014

    Amazing writing πŸ™‚ Dunno if you remember me .. Just got back to blogging once again and started reading all I have missed… and God, I have missed on a lot of good stuff πŸ™‚

    • kismitoffeebar · April 6, 2014

      Hello ! πŸ™‚ You seem familiar but then I am not proud of my memory sometimes. Sorry about that.
      Thanks a lot. So good to see that you got back to blogging! Hope to see you more often πŸ™‚

  17. B. M. · April 17, 2014

    nope i would not mind this therapy any time , i want it all the time πŸ™‚

    lovely pics …

    • kismitoffeebar · April 28, 2014


      I am so so so so happy to see you here again! How have you been? We have all missed you….

      • B. M. · April 28, 2014

        heyyyyyyyy.. I am ok. still Alive .. πŸ™‚ Thank you so much .. hopefully remain in touch now …

      • kismitoffeebar · April 29, 2014

        Ya πŸ™‚

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