It happened to me. Again.

As I type this, I feel warm within, thankful, confused, overwhelmed and yes, more thankful.

It is amazing how much we talk about sensitivity and sensibility and yet the concept seems elusive many a time. Intentional or unintentional is beside the point. I have seen some of the most sensitive people tripping over something obvious. And then I have seen inspiring acts of delicate handling that keeps me awed.

Last week, I was in a school for children with intellectual disability. The topic happening in the classroom was “Family”. So, the teachers had print-outs of mummies and daddies and brothers and sisters and grandparents and uncles and aunts and so on. All these were generic pictures ofcourse. The teacher drew a big circle on the board and each little student had to come to the teacher and collect the cards applicable for him/her (as in, who constituted their family) and put the photos in.

Just as she was about to start the lesson, the teacher realized that this is going to be one big sensitive issue. And when I realized what she meant, I cannot describe the kind of respect I felt for her.

There was this one little chirpy, happy out-of-this-world boy who was not just huggable but also seemed to spread oodles of warmth and cheer around him. This boy has been given up (as in, they don’t wish to raise him) by both his parents and is currently at a home that attends to  children whose parents have given up (owing to many reasons but that is not what we will be discussing). The home looks after him and has also assigned a guardian angel whose name is M.

So, she wanted to be very very sensitive about how she went about this lesson. She called the little boy first and asked him to choose his favourite. He picked up a picture of a lady and said that she is M. Very happily he filled his family circle and hopped back to his seat.

Subsequently, other children came forward and did their turn. Everytime someone came froward and added a grandmother or a father, this little boy also took another corresponding picture of a grandmother or father and added it to his own circle. He was so happy and busy adding every relationship in his circle that we were all overcome with a sense of sadness and happiness. Finally, his circle became the biggest of all. It choked us to see him so happy and claiming to have a big big family.

He does have a big family. He has his friends and teachers. More than anything he has this magical spirit within him. One that keeps him perpetually happy. Yet, somewhere, something tugged at my heart. I don’t want to blame anyone for I will never understand what went behind their decisions.

But I love this lad and I just strongly pray and hope that he gets to fill his circle soon. And that smile gets wider; as if that is even going to be possible 🙂

And that’s how I got myself another bum-chum.

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  1. Destination Infinity · January 24, 2013

    Even though he is unlucky on the family front, he is lucky to have found this nice home. God bless people and Govt’s. who ensure that such kids keep smiling. It’s nice to see some goodness around, for a change.

    Destination Infinity

  2. Zephyr · January 24, 2013

    That was one poignant post, Toffee. It is not always that grief brings a lump to the throat, such acts of zindadili do too. May God grant him his big big family. And bless people like you who work with such soldiers.

    • kismitoffeebar · January 27, 2013

      I heartily agree Zephyr. I join you in your prayers 🙂
      Thank you so much. You are very kind. I have a long way to go.

  3. Visha · January 24, 2013

    How touching! Bless the teacher to be so efficient in dealing with the kid’s emotions.

    One day, he will have a big and wonderful family 🙂

    Blessed are you to have the company of such wonderful souls

    • kismitoffeebar · January 27, 2013

      True Visha. I hope so too 🙂 I am indeed very blessed! 🙂

  4. anisnest · January 24, 2013

    May God bless this little boy with all happiness.. It is so sad and heart wrenching to see the small souls go through all this pain.. this also shows how gifted we are..

    • kismitoffeebar · January 27, 2013

      Really Ani. He just didn’t seem to be under any pain at all. Definitely something we can pick up, no? 🙂

  5. Roshni · January 24, 2013

    so glad that he indeed does have a wonderful family and lots of friends! We cannot make judgements on why his parents gave him up!

    • kismitoffeebar · January 27, 2013

      You are so right Rosh! We definitely cannot judge, for we are not them 🙂

  6. pixie · January 25, 2013

    Oh! this post touched my heart… I wish the little boy all the happiness in the world. 🙂

    • kismitoffeebar · January 27, 2013

      I join you in wishing him a lot of happiness Pixie! 🙂

  7. KP · January 25, 2013

    A moving post.It is good there are such caring homes and understanding teachers.I wish, not only this boy but the others too who could not express themselves so demonstrably, all happiness.

    • kismitoffeebar · January 27, 2013

      You said it right KP. There are many who cannot express in such a manner. We wish them all a very happy world 🙂

  8. The Girl Next Door · January 28, 2013

    What a touching post! Left me with a lump in my throat.
    I hope he gets to fill his circle real soon, too…

  9. Pesto Sauce · January 28, 2013

    Very touching, family is more precious than any wealth or fame

  10. techie2mom · January 29, 2013

    May the little lad be happy forever…
    Thanks for such a heart felt post, warmed up my heart…

  11. Swaram · January 31, 2013

    I am in awe of that teacher too! Much luv to Chirpy 🙂

    • kismitoffeebar · January 31, 2013

      🙂 Me too! hehe, he seems ot be making hsi circle big pretty fast!

  12. Filter Kaapi · January 31, 2013

    Kudos to the teacher and M! I hope he gets to fill his circle and hope he stays happy forever.

  13. Amit · February 1, 2013

    Beautiful heart warming post.

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